Month: April 2024

Live your life through LOVE, not FEAR.

20th and 21st century scientists have discovered that everything has a frequency, because everything is made of energy. The fear frequency has a lower vibration to the love frequency and so therefore matter will be affected accordingly.

There are fundamentally two types of emotions that we experience – the negative ones such as anger, hate, anxiety, sadness are bourne out of fear. Conversely, good feelings such as excitement, happiness, bliss are bourne out of love – which enables true acceptance and harmony.

The fear frequency makes us feel disconnected, alone, out of balance, uncooperative, destructive.  This becomes reflected in our bodies, as we develop dis-ease and aging.

The love frequency, conversely, not only enables better health, because the cells in our body act in a more balanced, functional and cooperative way (cells communicate with one another when healthy), but through higher frequency energy we gain clearer, deeper insights into overcoming any problems that we are experiencing.

So here are some examples of how you can orientate yourself to live your life through LOVE, not fear:

• Whilst driving, you keep within the speed limit because you LOVE to feel safe and cooperative with other drivers, not because you FEAR that the speed cameras will get you.

• You clean the house, because you LOVE providing a pleasant environment for your family, not because you FEAR what the visitors are going to think.

• You cook a nutritous meal, because you LOVE to nurture your kids, not because you FEAR that they are going to lack nutrition and therefore fail to grow.

• You practice reading with your child, because you LOVE seeing them develop and share an activity with them, not because you FEAR that they will be illiterate.

• You go to work because you LOVE earning money and being productive, not because you FEAR that you may not be able to pay the mortgage if you don’t.

• You run your business because you LOVE providing solutions to clients, not because you FEAR that you’re lacking income.

• You meet up with friends, because you LOVE their company, not because, if you don’t, you FEAR that you’ll be lonely.

• You take the medicine because you LOVE restoring your health, not because you FEAR that you’ll remain sick if you don’t.

• You LOVE feeling tired because it’s your cue to cut yourself some slack and enjoy a rest, rather than FEARing that you won’t get it all done.

• You LOVE being ill, because it gives you and others the chance to look after you, rather than FEARing that there is something wrong with you.

• You LOVE being critised, because someone cares enough about your well-being and wants to be part of your life, rather than FEARing that you can’t defend yourself.

Someone who I feel gives a good example of this principle is Wilko Johnson, the Dr Feelgood musician. In January 2013 he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and given less than a year to live. But because he chose to LOVE his life more than he FEARED his death, he not only managed to survive it without chemo-therapy, he is positively thriving to this day. It is common for many patients to decline in health after such a diagnosis, because usually fear dominates the person’s reaction. The problem is that in our culture we have elevated science to the status of a substitute god, all seeing, all knowing, which then gives it the power of suggestion.  However, during the time of diagnosis, Wilko described in a radio interview how he walked out of the doctors surgery and everything looked alive and vibrant. He had decided to use this predicament as an opportunity to play music with musicians that he admired and felt he had a good bargaining counter. And that is what he is doing to this day, despite having recently had an operation on the tumour, is healthy enough to continue his LOVE of life.

You can start to see that even the most seemingly negative scenarios can always be loved by you, contrary to some of our inbuilt beliefs. The important point to make here is that in truth you can never change your circumstance – which is what we normally try to do, but fail – See How to Eliminate Stress from your Life. This is because our mind, due to the power of it’s imagination, can lead us to believe that there can be a moment other than this one.

When do you remember to practice this principle? When your heart sinks – this is an indication that you have disconnected with your life-force, because you are living in fear and not in love. See Let Your Heart be Your GPS.

So when we do live through love, we reconnect with our innate healing powers, insights and wisdom and power. This is how I work with my clients: to find out in which areas are difficult to love due to conditioned or limited beliefs. Once it is matched with the remedy, the patient finds a new positive perspective, however bad the situation seems to be and this is what allows healing to commence.

Contrary to popular belief, no one has the power over the outcome of your life, except you – not by doing anything, as we commonly believe, but by the lens that we hold up to the world. We can either look through the eyes of FEAR or through the eyes of LOVE.

Many people who have chronic health conditions have spent time and money looking everywhere for the elusive right diet, right pill, regime, right exercise which can help for a while, but…

to find a permanent source of well-being, you have to look in the least expected place:

YOU are the source of your own HEALING POWERS, in the same way,

YOU are the source of your own HAPPINESS

YOU are the source of your own SECURITY

YOU are the source of your own CREATIVITY and therefore ABUNDANCE

YOU are the source of your AUTHORITY and VALIDATION

YOU are the source of  LOVE and COMPASSION for yourself.

YOU are the source of your own WISDOM and INTELLIGENCE

Because YOU are the source of your own vital energy, it is your life force.

This is really good news, because your fundamental well-being is really not dependant on external factors after all and you realise that you can be really well, happy and secure  regardless of your external circumstances and what is available to you.

The ONLY question remains is: what is disconnecting you from your own source of energy and thereby transforming your experience? What are you inadvertently doing that is taking you away from what will make you WHOLE and COMPLETE?

Homeopathy understands this mechanism, and so it’s only purpose, in times when the client is chronically unwell, is to endeavour to re-connect you with you own innate healing powers. We do this by working out how the person is inadvertently disconnecting themselves usually due to the conditioning, life situations and genetic makeup. We then find a remedy that matches this patterning or tendency in order heal it and thereby enabling the reconnection with your Vital Energy to occur. The net result is not only the physical problems healing, but that you generally feel better in yourself.

Here are some typical blocks to self-connection:

When you feel emotional or physically bad, what thoughts do you have?

What are you saying to yourself? Are you criticising the way you are? Judgement is a form of self-rejection, which disconnects you with yourself.

What do you think needs doing that is coming ahead of your current needs and desires? When we put goals before ourselves, we disconnect from ourselves.

What trouble are other people causing for you? This is a sign that you’ve inadvertently given others authority over you. Be your own point of reference and authority and thereby you reconnect with yourself.

What do you believe you haven’t got to be ok? We can compromise ourselves in the pursuit of things we think we lack, such as money, friendship, love.

When we start to become aware of how we are compromising ourselves, due to the belief that the outside world is more important than we are, we have a choice:

“Do I want to play the victim or do I want my power back?”

If you want your power – which is your life force – back then YOU have to the most important thing in your life. In order to do this we have to listen inwards not outwards as our first priority.

CLUES that will let you know whether you are connecting with yourself and thereby your life-force:

When you are thinking or doing something that makes your heart sink –  this is your natural alarm signal that you are disconnecting from your life force – your body always tells the truth.

When you are connected, you feel either passionate, ‘in the moment’, excited, interested, loving, peaceful – these are the results and not cause of being connected to your life force – it is therefore your natural state.

How it works in practice:

A great example of this, with a timely reminder that Apple was recently proclaimed the most profitable company in the world due to its most desirable products. The late founder and visionary behind Apple, Steve Jobs, who was known for his counter-culture background  interestingly spent a year in India in his youth. India is the mecca for spiritual seekers, whereby it is encouraged to look within in mediation, and notice dispassionately what our thoughts are up to and what we would normally be compelled to act upon. Once these thoughts (which are only thoughts, with no actual substance) are seen through, our ‘true nature’ which precedes those thoughts is seen. And that is the immense power, wisdom and love that we really ‘are’. So, Steve Jobs is one of many examples of how each of us could see beyond current constrained thinking, by thus tapping into his own creativity – which is one of the many functions of our vital energy which develops bigger and better ideas.

Life is like a flowing river: ever changing, ever new, ever present but never them same.

This is what vitality is –  the unhindered flow of energy that flows through us, giving us an ever-present, ever changing unique experience. When we are fully engaged with our vitality and therefore life, we feel fresh, light, alive, buoyant, pleasantly expectant, trusting, spontaneous, energised, not a care in the world, because nothing, literally, matters in the grand scheme of things.

Do you feel like this now? Yes? Great! No? Then let’s find out why.

Something that has become very clear to me in my practice is that that fundamentally we become dis-eased when there is a stuckness in that flow of life. Just like a river, if that flow is blocked, there is stagnancy, decay and pollution – in physical terms, our bodies accumulate toxins, which degrade cells and are, from the holistic point of view, at the root of most chronic ailments.

What is the reason? Again, likening it to a river, we either hold onto the sides of the bank and let the current of life batter us, or dam up the river so we end up not moving at all, thereby stagnating.

So those of us who cling onto the tried and tested for fear of the new, (the banks of the river) end up trying to second-guess the future, feeling exhausted (adrenal fatigue is common) always fearing what is round the next corner. The main feeling that results in this is anxiety.

Those of us who dam up the river and remain stagnant, conversely, hold onto the past, letting that define them instead of the ever – present moment. The main feeling is depression and sadness.

What we should be doing is just throwing ourselves into the unhindered flow, sothat we only ever define what we are by what is currently (no pun) is experienced. Resultant feeling? You define yourself as pure innocence, fresh alive and new, nothing can define you, because it feels that you are life itself. Athletes master this and call it being in the zone, to achieve maximum potential in their performance. People spend decades in meditation to achieve this state, but I believe it is available to you right now – you’ve just got to see it!

So how can you become aware of your own patterning to achieve this vital state, thus ensuring pristine health and well-being? By looking at the conditions you put on life for it to be ok for you:  “I can’t be happy until I’ve got a boyfriend”

“I can’t change my day-job until I’m financially secure”.

“I can’t improve my health until I have enough money”.

“I can’t take a sabbatical until I’ve got pregnant”.

“I can’t go on holiday until I have someone to go with me”.

“I can’t buy new clothes and look fab until I’ve lost weight”.

A friend once reminisced that she was in a job she hated, but decided not to give it up, until she got pregnant, in order to receive maternity leave for cash benefit. She did not, however get pregnant over the next year, so, being very fed up at this point, she listened to this and gave up her job anyway. Within a week she got pregnant! Conceiving new life in particular is greatly hindered by thinking in a conditional way and is really the product of love and passion, beyond the rational mind. Given the large numbers of infertile couples, we can see it is a common malaise that could be rectified by this new way of understanding how life works.

An exercise to re-calibrate yourself to transition from the dead zone to the Live Zone.

Just ask yourself: “If money, time, circumstances, and other people’s opinions were irrelevant, what would you be doing right now? In a week’s time? in a month, in a year and in 10 years? Spend as much time daydreaming as you can, and notice how you feel physically. Your body does not know the difference between the pictures in your head and the “reality” outside it. If it makes you feel better then you have already found your own solution.

Now ask yourself “How am I acting, what am I believing on a regular basis that is stopping me from going for that life?” Leave a space in your mind, for the answer to emerge in you.

This is what my work is all about, and that’s why my strap line is Homeopathy for Vitality – not homeopathy to get rid of symptoms, because hopefully you now know that that is not really the issue. Symptoms can be the result of the flow of life, as really they the body re-balancing itself. It’s the present, predominating and persisting symptoms that indicate the block to vitality resulting in the dead-zone. This is what I treat in the individual, because it is the the barriers to that have to be addressed in order to let the flow of life commence within you and through you.

As a final note, I’m not expounding that we live in a totally unbounded way as this would be too alien and disorientating given how our society currently is structured – for example saving for a rainy day. For me, when this thinking does become relevant is when illness is telling you that the constrictions to life are no longer serving you. This is what is then upper most in us to be healed.

So, what are you waiting for? Dive in!

There are many ongoing dis-ease conditions both physical and emotional that people suffer from nowadays that require permanent pain control:

In the light of increasing prescribed and self-medicated pain relief addictions, this article is going to look at how we can get beyond pain control. Not only will this solve the root of the problem, but give you more energy and a greater ability live life the way you want it to be.

One typical disease such as this is fibromyalgia – various painful sensations and sensitivities anywhere in the body. Although it can be managed with de-sensitising pain relief such as medication, ‘positive thinking’, relaxation techniques including visualisation and water therapy, the pain however still remains. Medical science does to not understand the cause of this condition and can therefore not clarify a route forward for sufferers.

So many are locked into a miserable cycle of chronic ailments with no sign of cure.

In energy medicine we understand that chronic or unresolvable disease symptoms are the result of two opposing forces locked in stalemate, after an attempt to correct an imbalance – because our systems have an in-built mechanism to maintain haemostasis (balance) in order to keep us healthy and strong.

What are these two opposing forces?

The first is your life force that wants clear dis-ease (or dis-harmony) out of your bio-energetic system so that you experience better well-being or health (harmony). This force however can be opposed by our conditioned responses that occur in our nervous system (a wiring that conducts our life-force), that block the energy to come through in the right way.

So for example, if someone is upset, but does not dis-charge the energy of that negative emotion through crying or attending to their emotional needs, by blocking it and ‘sweeping it under the carpet’, where do you think that pent-up emotion (energy in motion) goes? Into the unconscious part of us which is……the body. We use our body as a dustbin for all the unprocessed and therefore unresolved negative feelings, in the hope that we’ll never have to look at the  again!? Wrong! When someone does this, it is because they have been conditioned through survival programming to deny their own bad feelings because of many possible reasons, for example:

• People would think they are miserable and not fun and would therefore not like them so much and not be with them.
• People will take advantage of them as they would be displaying signs of weakness.

So one can see that the survival program forces you to choose safety over happiness: Survive or Thrive?

So over some time, if a person represses emotional pain from a number of incidents or unhappy ongoing situations in their life, the bio-energetic system of their body will have to hold more emotional charge. This is when the vital energy has to start trying to ‘discharge’ this increasingly problematic charge that will block the positive functioning or that person, just like a battery. If the life-force is successful, because the person has succumbed to it and ignored the social programming, they will have a good cry, and look at the cause of that upset, and how they could correct their thoughts and actions to create a better outcome in their lives. That would possibly mean breaking some of that social programming in favour of keeping their systems clear of pent-up emotional charges.

An example may be a person may have an ongoing situation where they are bullied or demeaned. They are too frightened to challenge or express anger because they believe that the person has power over them, either they could take something away, or not provide some them. Instead of remaining ‘present in their body’ sothat they can immediately sense that this is more damaging to them than any outside influence, they allow their fear of future outcomes to govern their response.

We all have many years of  pent-up emotional charges inside us and here is a way to discharge them: Pain is nature’s way of drawing attention to the body. When you pay attention to something, it receives more vital energy:

“Where attention goes, energy flows”

The problem with pain killers is that we block that diversion of attention, so that your body cannot heal. To illustrate my point here, I’ll use an event that happened to me: I was suffering from severe menstrual cramps and have always known that pain killers will block that healing, and I took it once stage further, by remaining fully present to the pain, no matter how excruciating it was.

Another thing to remember is that our nervous system is automated to run away from pain, and run towards pleasure. Thus most people are stuck in a cycle of compulsive fear and desire, never resolving their problem.

So what happened next was really surprising: I had managed to transcend the fear of pain and desire for relief, and got myself into a state of equanimity or “ok-ness no matter what”. It was at that point, that the intense pain turned into something completely different, like a flick of a switch, into a warm wave of loving, healing energy that felt incredibly pleasant!

What I gauged from this was that in my relationships, I have always neglected my own feelings thereby suppressing self-love! The act of paying attention to the pain in my body, just like a mother holding a crying baby and allowing it to express it’s pain, was an act of self-love. This then sets up a harmonious relationship within yourself that can enable your life-force to heal you now and protect you from future dis-ease.

My advice to anyone suffering from long-term pain, is to pay attention to that pain, by sensing it, without distraction from the mind. This includes not meditating and visualising, because that is running away  and managing it. If there are tears then you are releasing somatised (or embodied) emotional pain. This is a good thing, don’t allow your mind to tell you otherwise.

This exercise, transcends resistance and that is the ONLY cause of disease.

What do you do when you need to manage a situation with either a ‘tantrumy toddler’, an irate customer or an uncooperative teenager? When we need to take charge in the relationship, the usual way we respond is to deliberately act calmly and talk sensibly to counter a ‘bad’ attitude in the other person. The Keep Calm and Carry On approach. Unfortunately, we don’t always get the results we want and end up taking offensive action, by harsh reprimand or punishment, or defensive action by yielding to their demands. Not only does this feel unsatisfactory but does to seems to change persistent irregulated emotions or behaviour in others, and allows negative behaviour to dominate the outcome.

The famous (or infamous) maverick psychiatrist R D Laing understood this type of problem and in the 1970s devised a unique solution to it, in a bid to avoid the extreme solution ECT treatment for his patients. In a famous case, when consulting with a woman suffering from frequent bouts of catatonia – whereby she would be unable to move or speak, he just mirrored her troublesome behaviour. So in his consultation with her, he sat there with her for the entire session being motionless and still.  As a result of the session, the patient made a decision, to see her problem as a blessing not a curse. In doing so, she signed up to become an artist’s model where being still was an asset! Soon after, she started to gradually get better until eventually she was deemed cured of her affliction.

The practice of Neural Linguistic Programming formalises a number of protocols that enables anyone to truly change others in ways that are not immediately obvious…. And yet we unconsciously do this when we are relaxed, when our instincts can take over.

The protocol for the purposes of this article that is extremely useful is one called Pace, Pace, Lead. As an example of how it’s employed, psychiatric nurses dealing with psychotic patients in potentially dangerous situations, will approach the patient whilst mimicking their physical behaviour. This would mean waving their hands around in a frantic manner and moving irratically. Once the patient ‘feels understood’, because the nurse is resonating with them, they can slowly tone down the  behaviour which will encourage the patient to calm down. So when someone is not in their rational right mind, they feel frightened and misunderstood, yet this harmonisation with they physical behaviour will enable them to calm down and come to their senses, so much so they can become entrained by the person in charge to adopt better behaviour.

Here are some ideas on how you can achieve the same results in your everyday dilemmas with others, when you need a particular outcome. Do one or more of the following without obviously mimicking them:

• match some of their physical movements
• match the pitch of their voice
• agree with their initial point of you eg ‘yes I totally understand that you feel frustrated, I would as well…’
• match their posture
• match their mood or attitude
• match their facial expressions

Then, when you notice them calming down, lessen your matching behaviours and start transitioning into the behaviour that you want from them. For example you want them to relax, move from a tense attitude to a relaxed attitude. This way you’re guiding their nervous system to find the right way to change. What we don’t fully recognise is that the bad behaviour comes from a very stuck place within the person, where they do not truly want to be there themselves, but know no other way. You, by taking charge in this was are helping them to find that way.

Through this, we see that disease is only a lack of harmony, so our primary focus in curing disease is to restore the underlying harmony.